1. DON’T settle for less than someone who ignites you intellectually, spiritually, sexually, and emotionally.
2. DO be specific with each other about what you want from your marriage.
3. DON’T marry a lousy kisser.
4. DO marry someone who makes you laugh. Continue reading
Second marriage may prove a struggle, but the wedding itself usually goes off without a hitch. Dee Merz, a wedding consultant with Everlasting Memories in Sonoma County, California, says it’s a joy to put together second weddings. Continue reading
So you want to take the plunge, but the World Wide Web is huge. Where do you go? A web site or newsgroup that caters to any nonromance interest of yours — say, antique Persian rugs — will involve people talking and meeting electronically, and many romances have grown from discussions of shared interests. Continue reading
If you’re looking for love, the chances are increasingly good that you will search for it — and find it — online. Dating services are so busy signing up new members that some can afford to specialize in almost any human interest you can imagine — from auto parts to zebras. Internet romance is so hot, say experts, that the day is fast approaching when searching online will be the standard way people find love. Continue reading
After listening to hundreds of couples in his practice, therapist Harville Hendrix noticed that eventually “just about every person would turn angrily to his or her spouse and say, ‘You treat me just the way my mother did!’ or ‘You make me feel just as helpless as my stepfather did!’” Further, he noticed that couples returned over and over to their painful feelings of childhood, attempting on an unconscious level to resolve their feelings through their spouse. Continue reading
The statistics are sobering: Fifty percent of marriages in North America end in divorce despite fancy place settings and tiered cakes.
It seems that the bridal fantasy is at odds with the reality of making a marriage work.
Marriage is a commitment between equals to cherish and nurture each other — which sounds noble on paper, but can feel like couples’ boot camp when you’re in the thick of it. Continue reading
How to Tell Your Girlfriends that You Are (Seriously) Into the Beauty Thing?
I don’t think we even need to go into the reasons not to discuss beauty matters with him: his lack of interest; his lack of the kind of social training that might enable him to feign interest; the fact that, should you slip and begin to natter about leg waxing or glycolic peels, he will turn on the television set or go change the oil in the car. Continue reading
How to Tell Your Girlfriends that Other Men Occasionally Cross Your Mind?
“Here are the categories that I reserve for my girlfriends,” says Rachel, who is married to a successful accountant. “Attractive men other than my husband, erotic dreams that star a man other than my husband, and any accidentally sizzling moment involving someone besides my husband.” She recently confessed to me that she has a tiny crush on the guy who teaches her aerobics class. Continue reading
Gregory was not the type of guy to act mushy; even after a year of marriage, he still refused to kiss or hug in public. So when he left one Friday morning for a ten-day, eight-city business trip — the first time we’d be separated since our wedding a year before — I didn’t expect more than a daily call. Continue reading
Nothing stirs a woman’s heart like a romantic husband — especially when the husband is hers. Sure we know our guys care, and it’s handy that they’re more likely to show their feelings by fixing the broken light in the microwave than by composing an original sonnet. Which is why, when the mood strikes and even the most seemingly unsentimental husband rises to the occasion with an affecting gesture or heart-tugging missive, it means so much. As these women found, romance when we least expect it can win us over . . . all over again.
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