And then there are the couples who have their best sex before, after, and sometimes instead of a fight. “God knows, we’ve tried to be a talk-through-your-anger kind of couple,” sighs a friend of mine, “but we’re just never going to make it as Oprah role models. We have a very passionate, very volatile connection. We scream and yell at each other and we battle it out in bed. I’m sure our neighbors have their own opinion, but in our marriage it works. We trust it.” Continue reading
It seemed like a no-brainer. A reader wrote that her husband had resumed a certain activity that — just a few short months back — had culminated in physical infidelity on his part. He had asked her forgiveness; she had given it. They had gone to counseling together, where presumably the intimate concerns of both parties were addressed and concessions promised. Continue reading
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I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl 10 months ago. It was a forceps delivery without episiotomy, and I tore quite badly, leaving me with about five scars. The scars appear to have healed well, but my vaginal opening doesn’t seem to have shrunk at all. Continue reading
“Everybody is doing it” seems to be the popular excuse for teenagers since the beginning of time. Parents often counter argue with something like “If everybody did this dangerous act, would you?” Unfortunately this is a losing battle. Teenagers are commonly faced with peer pressure when the parents are not around. This is one of the reasons that many teenagers are engaging in sexual activity. Continue reading
5 Ways to Sweet-Talk Him So He’ll Really Hear Bear
1. Tell him a secret. My friend Nina often begins lovemaking by telling her husband something she’s been holding back. Her secret doesn’t have to be earth-shattering. What counts is the intimacy and the surprise, which translate into physical closeness. Continue reading
According to a survey by the Heritage Foundation, only 7 percent of parents are happy with the sex education curricula that are offered in America’s schools. It can be difficult to find a sexuality education program that meets the needs of all children. Abstinence curricula, which teach that sex should be delayed until marriage, ignore the needs of teens who are already sexually active and need to be educated on birth control and sexually transmitted diseases. Continue reading
What is premature ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation is, well, ejaculation that is premature – that is it occurs before a man wants it, or too quickly during intercourse to satisfy his partner. This, of course, is relative: what’s considered too quick for someone might be completely normal for others.
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Using sex to sell clothing — or anything really — is hardly unusual. But is Abercrombie & Fitch going too far?
Absolutely, claims the National Coalition for the Protection of Children & Families. The Christian Cincinnati-based group has launched a boycott campaign against the clothing company (www.stopaf.org), claiming the Abercrombie quarterly catalog (sold in stores and by subscription) contains frontal nudity and articles promoting “sexual promiscuity.” Continue reading
When you start dating someone new, how long should you wait before hopping into bed? While generations before us have generally accepted that sex on the first date is taboo, lately the lines seem a bit blurred — we’re still driven by the “take it slow” mantras of our parents, but we’re also heavily influenced by the liberated Samantha Jones-types who figure that sex is no big deal. Does it matter when you sleep with someone? Is there any point in waiting?
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Q: Does better foreplay = better orgasm?
A: NO. Longer sex does! A recent study found our ability to orgasm depended not on foreplay but on the “quality and duration” of sex. European scientists asked 2,360 women to track whether they had orgasms, and how long they’d engaged in foreplay and actual sex, whenever they got it on. The findings? Length of intercourse was more important for orgasms than foreplay. Continue reading